As a parent, you see the world with two sets of eyes: the eyes of your childhood self and the eyes of your current self. At times, your childhood eyes are so powerful that they can interfere with what your adult eyes are seeing and experiencing with your child.
Having your own child can bring back joyous memories of your childhood, but it can also stir up unresolved memories, creating anxiety and conflict. By consciously revisiting your memories, you can develop a more realistic understanding of who you are today. This self-knowledge will help you become the parent you wish to become.
The more you understand your own history, the more you’ll be able to separate your own childhood feelings and experiences from those of your child. This helps you better read your child’s needs and support her in becoming a unique person.