Preventing and Managing Those Dreaded Meltdowns
“Do not teach your children never to be angry; teach them how to be angry.”
– LYMAN ABBOTT
Temper tantrums are a normal part of your child’s development. You may dread tantrums because you feel scared, confused, or even embarrassed by these sudden outbursts. Unfortunately, you can’t avoid them, so strengthen your endurance. Understand that tantrums are a way for your child to overcome frustrations and intense emotions. Being out of control is…
Choose your battles wisely. • Go ahead and give in a little sometimes, so that your child has a healthy sense of control. Key words are “a little sometimes”; giving your child too much control will only increase tantrums. • Acknowledge or thank your child when she manages frustration or cooperates. Set your child up…
Tantrums are emotional meltdowns. Your child cannot think during a tantrum, and you cannot reason with her until she calms down. Parental Attitudes • Remember your child’s age and stage. Have realistic expectations. • Do not take your child’s words or behavior personally. Your child’s tantrum is not a reflection on you or on your…
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