Resources for Further Reading

Kaplan, L.J. (1978). Oneness and separateness: From infant to individual. New York, NY: Simon & Schuster. Levine, M. (2006). The price of privilege: How parental pressure and material advantage are creating a generation of disconnected and unhappy kids. New York, NY: Harper. Poarch, J.E. (1990). Limits: The keystone of emotional growth. Muncie, IN: Accelerated Development […]

Helpful Tips

• Suggest or demonstrate strategies for solving whatever problem is frustrating your child. • Break your child’s problem into manageable parts. “You want to do this really big puzzle. First, let’s arrange the pieces by color and then I’ll help you put the pieces in the puzzle.” • Use humor whenever possible. It can reduce […]

A Wait and Learn Example

Imagine Jennifer takes her eighteen-month-old son Ricky to their favorite pizza place, but it’s closed. Ricky has waited all week for this special outing, and in a fit of frustration, Ricky throws himself on the ground and cries. Jennifer calmly acknowledges Ricky’s disappointment and says, “We were both so excited to have pizza. I’m disappointed, […]

What is Frustration Tolerance?

No matter how young or how old you are, you can’t always get what you want. Your child will learn this early on, along with how it feels to be disappointed. Over time, he’ll understand that life presents obstacles. It’s not always easy to see your child get upset, but if you shield him from […]

Teaching Your Child to Manage Frustration

You Can’t Always Get What You Want “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom.” – DR. VIKTOR FRANKL

Resources for Further Reading

Gopnik, A., Meltzoff, A. N., & Kuhl, P. (2000). The scientist in the crib: What early learning tells us about the mind. New York, NY: Harper Perennial.

Labeling Feelings

Using self-talk to teach your child how to label feelings helps her connect her feelings with words. This helps her better understand and express her emotions and experiences. You can play a matching game with your child by showing her pictures of various feelings and matching the facial expressions with the feeling states (happy, sad, […]

Benefits of Self-Talk

Self-talk can be helpful for a wide variety of situations. For instance: • Planning: If you say, “You can have a cupcake after dinner,” your child will tell herself, “First dinner, then a cupcake.” • Self-Guidance: If you’re calm about your own mistakes and say, “I can try again,” your child will learn it’s okay […]

What Are Self-Talk and the Inner Voice?

You’re probably very familiar with your own inner voice, but how does your child’s inner voice develop? It comes from you. Your words and tone become the inner voice your child hears when she talks to herself. You can help nurture a positive inner voice that promotes self-regulation and confidence in your child by modeling […]

Self-Talk and the Inner Voice

Promoting Calm and Confidence “It’s like everyone tells a story about themselves inside their own head. Always. All the time. That story makes you what you are. We build ourselves out of that story.” – PATRICK ROTHFUSS